December 21, 2012

[byron]

Now I'm not really sure, I've got my own experiences...but I feel like maybe it's all ending/beginning in front of our eyes (this is all speculative of course, and I've done my research on this topic for going on a decade now). What if "the end" was just the beginning of the end? It would be crazy to have to sit back and watch everything that we've all worked so hard for just disintegrate in front of our eyes. I'm gonna wear my heart on my sleeve here for a second and just throw this out there. In the last 6 weeks, I've experienced the hardest times that I can ever remember having in my entire life (I am an incredibly optimistic person by the way). I have a pretty grim view on things since my mother was just buried, but aside from that...EVERYTHING seems to be going against the grain at this point. At no time in my life (except right now) can I recall more difficulty or tribulation...These are my own demons obviously, but was just wondering if anyone else out there is experiencing extreme hardship in their lives recently or if I'm just down on my luck...I could sure use a pick-me-up right about now ---

[xman]

I don't know about being able to "pick you up" Byron but I can let you in on what I have found in life. As you get older, it becomes easier as you gain in wealth as your long term plans come together and years of paid work all accumulate into finances and you also gain possessions. However, this comes at a cost and that is your piers that are naturally older than you depart around you. There is no way to prepare for this and it does not become any easier as you gain in age. All you can do is continue on as you believe is what these piers would expect of you and try to do them proud even if they are no longer with you. My bad years were 1995, 2009 and 2010. All these years were people's deaths that were close to me including my best mate that was virtually the same age as me and had been my best mate since 5 years old. That was actually very hard because it wasn't expected but I figure I had to go with the cards I was dealt and my life goes on. Funny how I still think, Ow I'll just give Darren a call and ask him about some electronics problem, something him and I have always been into but then it is quickly apparent, that won't be happening in a hurry. Your life has many ups and downs in stall for you and all you can do is continue the best you can learning from your mistakes as you go on. I'd like to say nothing but good is ahead of you but you and I know this not to be true. All you can do at this time is pull in close to family and friends and share in grief. I found family and work best as I am not religious. Maybe that is for you. Try to cheer up Byron and I really wish you much joy in life in the near future.

Xman.

[whufclee]

Keep your chin up byron, unfortunately the bad times come to us all and when you're on an streak of bad luck it can feel like there's no way out. All we can do is slog our way through the bad times and don't give up hope.

For the past two years I've been through some pretty bad times myself wtih health, financial, work and family woes. It would have been easy to get depressed by mulling over the bad luck and the "what if's" but that's not a healthy place to be. I also consider myself to have a very good outlook on life and am oprimistic but there has been some very hard times, you just need to pull through it mate - it's hard work but once you come out the other side it will make you a much stronger person. For myself. this year everything seems to be falling nicely into place and the negatives of the previous two years seem like a distant memory. The future is looking good once again.

Someone recently told me the following quote:

The past is for reference, not for residence

It's so simple and is the kind of philosophy I always thought I adhered to, however when I look back at my lowest moments I can see I somehow lost my way. Look to the future mate, with some hard work and effort things will get better.